Your Want-To is Broken, Being a Mentor.
How to actually lead the team you’re expected to manage
Ever Heard that?
“But dad, I don’t want to.”
We’ve all said it, at some point.
But very few of us have heard the response, “your want-to is broken.”
If you have, you’ve had a good coach or dad in your life.
But… Not a great one.
There are two parts to your existence. Your Ability, and your Willingness.
|“How To”||“Want To”|
|Know How||Ease of Doing|
In life, most of our experience is built with teachers, they show us how, they teach us how, they are the building blocks we form our life on.
That’s our Ability.
And then, we have peers, parents, and our sport coaches.
They motivate us.
Our Willingness. But this is the tricky part. You’ll rarely say I “can’t do that,” but you’ll say, “i don’t want to do that” pretty regularly.
Especially if you’re in a weight loss situation? You’ve probably been called “fat ass” or “lazy.” That you have no motivation to make a change.
You see yourself in the mirror everyday, you say, one day, or tomorrow, or ugh, but you never think of “how?”
What you’re missing isn’t motivation, and you’re not lazy, what you need is a mentor. The first step, that says, I may not want to, but now I know how to do it, and let’s just try.
Someone to take your hand, and show you how.
A great mentor shows you how, they take your hand, guide you along, and they motivate you.
A true mentor bridges the gap between ability and willingness. If you’re on this journey, seek out a mentor.
Someone who will show you the ropes and be in your corner, every step of the way.
Someone to get the ball rolling in the right direction, so that you wake up, look in the mirror, and say, I’m going to walk a mile today.
Take this lesson, and put it in your back pocket, one day, you’re going to find yourself in a position to be a mentor, and I cannot put into words just how special that is going to feel.
Remember to pay it forward.